Is there a difference between being a support to your children and being too supportive? Should we as parents be worried?
I am the mom of two wonderful adult children. Both are college educated and on their own. My married son has a great job and he and his wife are financially stable. In fact, they have one little girl and are talking about #2. My single daughter lives 3000 miles away, and I worry about her all the time. Can I draw the line between being the supportive, caring mother, and not the interfering, meddling mom? If I ask too many questions, am I prying?… CONTINUE READING
Do you understand the power of your mind? Have you wondered why your thoughts about an event are even more important than the event itself? This is crucial because everything you are and everything you have is a result of your thoughts.
Think about this. If you have a car accident, for example, do you anticipate having back and neck problems and get so anxious that you actually have cramps and diarrhea also?
Cognitive-behavioral therapists are trained to help you understand that your thoughts are affecting your moods, behaviors and ultimately your physical body and that you can change your experience by doing some simple, proven techniques.… CONTINUE READING
As wonderful as the holidays are, when your college kids come home, the stress usually escalates. It’s not that you don’t want to see them. In fact, you’re looking forward to it, but the problem lies in expectations.
You want to welcome your adult child home from school, yet you’re not sure you can see him/her technically all grown up. Remember that your child has been away from home where rules and restrictions are minimal and is experiencing many more opportunities and temptations than when they were safely under your supervision.
So how do you handle all this?
1. You would like to do an emotional check up on the kids to be sure they’re doing well, but don’t want to pry too much or be invasive.… CONTINUE READING
You have to admit this — you aren’t getting any younger. But with 78 million of us still employed, you are forcing companies to reinvent what it means to be “old” and still working. Many of you don’t have to think about retirement for another 5-10 years, and others are contemplating that transition now. To avoid the confusion and maybe frustration, it’s wise to think about what you really want to be experiencing in your job and after, to make “retirement” an easier transition.
If you have some time to think about this, the ideal job for baby boomers would include flexible hours so you have the availability to care for your aging parents and growing children. … CONTINUE READING
Who better to talk about adversity than Christopher Reeve, after his accident? He said, “When the first Superman movie came out I was frequently asked “What is a hero?” My answer was that a hero is someone who commits a courageous action without considering the consequences…Now my definition is completely different. I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”
Wouldn’t it be nice if we can all approach life like that and be able to bring back balance and harmony to our lives? Because we are being stretched to the limit, as we care for ourselves and all the challenges in between, it’s even more important to know how to handle adversity when it comes knocking at our door.… CONTINUE READING