Virginia Satir, who pioneered the most effective work in family therapy states the following:
- ¨”Say what you mean and mean what you say. Ask for what you want but know you will not always get it.”
- ¨”Be responsible for what you think, say and do rather than projecting it on others or denying it.”
- ¨”Identify your “shoulds” as well as beliefs you have grown up with that keep you caught in craziness and are not necessarily true.”
- ¨”Treat people as you would wish them to be rather than blaming them.”
- ¨”Be open to receiving feedback from others and listen to it carefully because you might learn something about yourself from it.”
- ¨”Be gentle and loving with yourself and others.”
- ¨”Celebrate ‘differentness’ in people.
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The ages between 45-65 can be the most chaotic for you since you are experiencing many physical transitions, as well as emotional challenges. With thoughts of your impending retirement and the economic changes that brings, you may feel increasingly out of sorts and maybe unnerved – but there is hope. In fact, people who express the most hope for their future, do well in life and reap all kinds of benefits.
The trick is to work toward what you want instead of away from what you don’t want. It becomes more motivating and invigorating to be forward thinking than to be worrying about doom and gloom. … CONTINUE READING
What are you telling yourself about why your life is the way it is? Does it sound like some of the following:
- I am too old, so what can I do now to improve my life?
- There must be something wrong with me. Otherwise, things would have turned out better.
- I always make the wrong decisions and suffer the consequences later.
- Everyone seems to have a happier life. What are they doing that I’m not doing?
- Why should I even bother?
Apparently, it may be comfortable for you to expect things to turn out badly, since you have that kind of track record. … CONTINUE READING
Anxiety can be very debilitating for the person experiencing it. It can wake you up from a sound sleep and creep up on you during any daily activity. Many times people with anxiety feel they have lost control when their body starts feeling its symptoms, like your heart beats faster, your hyperventilating, feeling nauseous or have the shakes. When you learn to stop those symptoms before they get out of hand, you are taking back the one control you really never lost and that is control over how you feel. It is important to learn how to control those feelings to regain your peace of mind and overall contentment, which are so important for health, well-being and normal functioning.… CONTINUE READING
Who hasn’t told a little white lie so you didn’t have to meet someone for lunch or go to a party? Actually, occasionally telling a white lie may be helpful when you are managing your interpersonal relationships. However, one of the fundamental aspects of healthy relationships is being able to trust and depend on the other person, so chronic lying can get you in trouble. In fact, excessive lying can be considered a character flaw.
When would it be OK to lie to someone? Here are a few instances when you can be perhaps justified to lie:
- If what you say would be downright hurtful, you may want to fudge the truth.
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