Life has a way of surprising us with challenges we didn’t expect, especially when it comes to our family, health and work. Studies show that some individuals can deal with these significant issues with greater resiliency than others. They tend to rebound and take on the challenge with confidence and hope. If you believe yourself to be strong in the face of stressful situations, you can classify your emotional hardiness as high. If not, you may want to learn how to develop and apply the characteristics of a resilient personality to better enhance your chances of successfully dealing with your unexpected crises. … CONTINUE READING
John Bradshaw, the award winning author of “Healing the Shame that Binds You ” says that “shame is the all pervasive sense that [you] are flawed and defective as a human being.” Guilt, on the other hand, means you have committed a wrongdoing and feel bad about it. Shame is more personal, intrinsic. It is more about who you are, not about what you did. Both are human emotions that cause you to put a negative label on yourself, when it’s not who you really are.
What parent hasn’t said, “I could’ve been a better parent.” What child hasn’t said, “I could have done more for my aging parent.”
With a surprising number of boomers heading towards retirement, most are not ready to spend their days hitting the golf balls or playing bridge. Instead they are looking to the future with enthusiasm and gusto. Why? Because they know that now they can finally do what they’ve always wanted to do. Whether it’s learning a new instrument (I’m learning the ukulele), studying a new language, writing a book or going back to school for training, they are excited about what lies ahead.
The New Year brings on new energy, new commitments and new goals for many boomers. This means a resurgence of excitement and renewal in body, mind and spirit. Often, boomers decide to go on diets, clean out their closets, begin exercise programs and make other changes that improve and enhance their lives for the better.
What they don’t do is keep the momentum going so that it lasts more than a few months. Does this sound like you? Do you want to make your life better, but fall short after it seems too hard, too tedious or too much work?
What steps can you take to permanently reach your goals?… CONTINUE READING
It is important to be self-aware because without it, behaviors are repeated over and over again with the same result. By understanding different strategies and available options, you can choose what is most appropriate, and more important, what you are willing to do to reach your desired goal.
Change cannot happen if your behavior is self-sabotaging or self-defeating and is perpetuating the situation you want to change. An understanding, for instance, that it is difficult and uncomfortable to meet your Mr. Right at the local bar, may get you to brainstorm other venues less intimidating and more “genuine” for your personality, ie: sporting events, bookstores, political meetings, gardening classes or civic organizations. … CONTINUE READING