John Bradshaw, the award winning author of “Healing the Shame that Binds You ” says that “shame is the all pervasive sense that [you] are flawed and defective as a human being.” Guilt, on the other hand, means you have committed a wrongdoing and feel bad about it. Shame is more personal, intrinsic. It is more about who you are, not about what you did. Both are human emotions that cause you to put a negative label on yourself, when it’s not who you really are.
What parent hasn’t said, “I could’ve been a better parent.” What child hasn’t said, “I could have done more for my aging parent.”
You are human and you will make mistakes. … CONTINUE READING
With a surprising number of boomers heading towards retirement, most are not ready to spend their days hitting the golf balls or playing bridge. Instead they are looking to the future with enthusiasm and gusto. Why? Because they know that now they can finally do what they’ve always wanted to do. Whether it’s learning a new instrument (I’m learning the ukulele), studying a new language, writing a book or going back to school for training, they are excited about what lies ahead.
How do you get that kind of enthusiasm? Understand that most people “our” age are living a lot longer — in fact well into their 80’s. … CONTINUE READING