Virginia Satir, who pioneered the most effective work in family therapy states the following:
- ¨”Say what you mean and mean what you say. Ask for what you want but know you will not always get it.”
- ¨”Be responsible for what you think, say and do rather than projecting it on others or denying it.”
- ¨”Identify your “shoulds” as well as beliefs you have grown up with that keep you caught in craziness and are not necessarily true.”
- ¨”Treat people as you would wish them to be rather than blaming them.”
- ¨”Be open to receiving feedback from others and listen to it carefully because you might learn something about yourself from it.”
- ¨”Be gentle and loving with yourself and others.”
- ¨”Celebrate ‘differentness’ in people.