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How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Just Love Yourself

The problem with being a people pleaser is that you forget how important you are because you want to be sure the other person is OK.  Here’s the key.  Do not be a martyrTake care of yourself, above all else, to ensure you maintain your health and well-being.  You should never feel guilty about focusing on yourself and on your personal needs.   Nor should you delay your enjoyment or settle for what you don’t deserve. So you need to continuously nurture yourself, just to be reminded that you are significant, worthy and SO very important.… CONTINUE READING

Building Strong Relationships: How to Be Your Authentic Self

Virginia Satir, who pioneered the most effective work in family therapy states the following:

  • ¨”Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Ask for what you want but know you will not always get it.”
  • ¨”Be responsible for what you think, say and do rather than projecting it on others or denying it.”
  • ¨”Identify your “shoulds” as well as beliefs you have grown up with that keep you caught in craziness and are not necessarily true.”
  • ¨”Treat people as you would wish them to be rather than blaming them.”
  • ¨”Be open to receiving feedback from others and listen to it carefully because you might learn something about yourself from it.”
  • ¨”Be gentle and loving with yourself and others.”
  • ¨”Celebrate ‘differentness’ in people. 
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